cocopuff7's Blog

I agree on this 100%. Kids showed a lot more respect when they knew that their parents were in charge. Too many parents have given control over to the children. There would be a lot less kids in jails and Juvenile centers if more kids were sporting red fannies.

I have to agree with the original poster. There was a lot more respect back when, they knew they couldn't get away with anything and that's how it should be. They have literally let kids control everything, I'm sure a lot will disagree with me but it's true.
I've done time outs, they don't care about that it means nothing to them. I've done taking away the toys, they don't care about that either they tell me good do it and when the toys are gone (even permenatly) it does not affect them at all it's like you never did anything. They get put in their rooms by themselves and all I get out of it is them screaming at the top of thier lungs saying how much they hate me, they want to move out and they're going to tell on me (referring to the school and whoever else). I get threated by my kids that if I do anything (more by my daughter) that they will make sure that they tell the cops and add in a few extras, so I sit here with them being in control of me because I can't do a thing to them or I risk losing them and/or sitting in jail.
So due tell me how all these things are supposed to work??? And my kids are no where's near spoiled.

(sorry I get irritated when I hear people say time-out's and the rest are the best, um no they're not. I'm not trying to be mean, just saying that's all)

All's I'm saying is that I got the belt when I was a kid and it didn't stop me from putting my head down and doing things my way. If a kid is determined to go bad they will regardless of the punishment as well as have some impact in their life that will make that change.

However, I've never had to raise a hand to any of my five children and they in turn have used the same philosophy in rearing their own kids and have grown up to be very grounded, well educated and productive people in society.

I'll reiterate what I said earlier. Too many children are in abusive situations with substance abusing parents who could care less what their kids are up to. Those that are not in that category have their kids on cruise control and by the time they do get around to parenting, it's too late for discipline measures. These are the ones that are turning into juvenile criminals!

Given the drinking laws, we've legislated that 21 is the age of majority. This gives us an easy solution.

From birth through age twenty, a child is treated as a minor. The "juvenile" code should be stricken from the law books. Any violation by a minor results in the prosecution of the parent or guardian as though they'd committed the crime themselves.

If Daddy or Mommy were facing felony assault charges because their kid couldn't keep his hands to himself, we'd witness a lot more proactive parenting.


-jjg

And what is your spin on proactive parenting jg?

I happen to think the measures you used (when that boy palmed your son's forehead while holding his neck with the other hand) were quite effective with the kid that did it to him. Too bad the parent most likely screwed that up.

So why is there out-of-hand kids like that who can fear the boundaries of an acquaintance like you versus his own damn parents?

And what is your spin on proactive parenting jg?

Teach your kid what "no" means, or somebody else will do it for you.

I'd never hit my kid. But 10 minutes at the mall, and it's all I can do not to smack everybody else's...


-jjg

I agree with the original poster and Blessed_Angel, I believe the current situation is a result of parents not being able to discipline or acutally the kids knowing that the parents are not able to. And there are also a lot of parents that because of their addictions, raising their children is no longer a priority.

The key is parenting. There is poor parenting run amok these days and that is why the children are running around like little criminals these days. If you raise your children to respect what you say, because you are the parent and as such you set the tone for the family’s moral and values, then your kids will behave.

I was never spanked, never hit by my father. And to some degree I believe I never misbehaved because I respected him and I knew I would be in big trouble if I did. I never knew what that trouble would look like, but there was the fear that something bad would happen. Kids today don’t fear or respect their parents because parents themselves don’t know how to be real parents. From what I have seen, far too many men and women are trying to be their kids “friends” instead of parents. More concerned that their kids like them, than respect them.