05/07/08 WED 9:05 AM From Trickortreat
Hi Lori ! Look !!! I have my own BLOG BLOG BLOG BLOG BLOG BLOG BLOG!!!!!!!!!!!!! So okay, this is the deal. I'm gonna send you an email to let you know about this, with my passcode to get in, then we can write back and forth to each other here (!!!!!!). How fun!
Also, in case it turns out lame, I can blame it all on you. Ya ha ha.
- Trickortreat
05/07/08 WED 10:13 AM From Trickortreat
Ooops- Lori, listen, I'll have to have you send me email to my private email then copy it here. It's a long story, but apparently we can't share passcodes (against terms). I don't want to get kicked off the site.
-Trickortreat
05/07/08 WED 3:36 PM From Trickortreat
This is me complain to this guy Brian, who moderates the scraggily blogs & boards (message) over at newschannelX.com :
Brian- I know you're in a transitional phase, but I quit. You keep veto-ing my stuff (!!!). Like what happened to my long diatribe where I cite The Boston Globe about text messaging. Not only did you NOT run it, you r-e-m-o-v-e-d the entire thread about the police chief (!!!). So I landed over at Fox. I'm having fun and have my own Newsroom Blog blog blog. I'll continue to yakkity-yak over by you if you stop being so mean... I am, you know, just a girl...Geeze...
-Trickortreat
05/07/08 WED 4:12 PM From Trickortreat
Yow! Here's NewsChannel X Brian's reply:
Trickortreat, Thanks for writing back. I'm still learning the forum tools myself and who runs them in the newsroom. I've only been here since January, but I grew up here, so it's a little bit of a homecoming for me. My esteemed peers at NewsChannel X do a nice job. Bear with me, there is a big change going on over here, and I'll always play nice. Thanks again for your patience and I'll look forward to your feedback when I launch the new tools early next year. I have developers working on everything now.
Brian
05/08/08 THU 11:22 AM From Lori
OK- I got your email and I could care less about the news. Also, I will not be entering any passwords or blogging. I will however be looking forward to hearing from you as always.
Nothing interesting here- I just got home from pilates and am now doing laundry and cleaning up the house. I have an annual doctors appointment this afternoon- Yuck!
Chicago was fun last week. I shopped and ate. BUT.......I don't miss living in the city anymore. I'm used to a simpler life now. Talk to you soon!
Love Lori
05/09/08 FRI 5:51 PM From Trickortreat
Well, I spent the morning packing up all my stuff to move into a one bedroom across the hall. I am seriously messing with Brian (newschannelx.com). Today I wrote:
Do you know who I am?
He replied:
No, not beyond a reader of newschannelx.com
I continued to tell him that I was a tar baby and that I was going to be his new source. Also, that his emails were dropping into my bulk folder... Probably because of the very dense logo. Anyways, I know what you mean about Chicago. I never really cared for that town- too windy and big, too buch traffic, noise. I prefer smaller more manageable cities, like Milwaukee.
I can never remember what state you moved to. Like, what is the closest Milwaukee-sized city to you and how long of a drive is it?
Jeff the hot(!!!) leasing manager of the building was just sitting next to me. I don't know what it is with me and my attraction to older men (!!!). I think it must be some kind of creepy daddy thing.
I'm starting classes for the summer session at UWM and need to register on-line. I'm hoping to get through their Computer Science and Engineering program (4 yr). Last week i did a bunch of foot work and transferred 9 credits from UWM >>> MU so hopefully now my BA is complete.
Now I need to get some s-k-i-l-l-s. I'm going to go log onto the boards at newschannelx.com now and try to write something interesting there (boring topic threads). ::groan::
- Trickortreat
05/11/08 SUN 7:52 AM From Trickortreat
QUESTION: Are Young Guys More Fun?
eg_isback_ wrote from boston.com: I am finding recently my dates with men my age are very tedious, wheras I have much more fun interactions with much younger men. Do you suppose it is because much younger men have less baggage? Are they more able to live in the moment and just enjoy flirting?
ANSWER:
trickortreat wrote: I don't think younger men are fun and only date men much older than me. I need the emotional and financial stability. I just broke up an eight year relationship with a man 13 older than me, and have an interest in someone who is in their late fifties...I think. That's the Leasing Agent Jeff , of my building, that I talk of in my newsroom blog.
- Trickortreat
05/12/08 MON 12:52 PM From Trickortreat
Hi Lori. I'm supposed to be using this time to try to figure out registering on-line for summer classes at UWM. ::sigh:: I'm just feeling very flustrated. Yes, flustrated...Mostly because I can't be two places at the same time.
It just seems like I have to maintain a position in the middle of everything- like in the middle of the info highway, which keeps me from doing anything concrete. I don't know. i don't think I'm describing my quandry correctly. It's hard to explain.
For example, I'd like to spend time as a college activist or student intern for the Milwaukee branch of the ACLU. I'd also like to continue volunteering for the transitional housing site for battered women.
However, taking computer classes is at the top of my priority list, as I need to learn some s-k-i-l-l-s. My B.A. from Marquette is worth zero.
I feel like I'm being pulled in too many directions.
This is what I wrote this morning to Brian at newschannelx.com:
Here is a great website for ideas to cure writer's block, and to get in to see what is going on in the law enforcement community. Interestingly, this is not a dot gov site, yet it is very very busy and covers two or three states. I'm not certain, because I just came across it recently, and haven't had the time to look over it properly. They have HOT! Topics, a subject header called "Firepower" about who has what kind of equiptment like guns, or whatever ::grimace:: , and also a bunch of legal beagle stuff. See xcops.com...
I'm going to start a thread from there and put it up on myfoxmilwaukee.com, (properly cited), about an article the Boston Globe ran "Do Pit Bulls Need a Law of Their Own?" to see how it does as a possible story in our market. I don't think we've considered banning it in our state, but I think the subject about the breed may be old news. I'm not sure, as I rarely watch the news- too depressing, but I suppose I should start since I'm now your new (probably crappy) source.
newschannelx Brian repled:
Cool, I'll check the site out.
05/13/08 TUE 3:21 PM From Trickortreat
I took a look-see at thebaltimoresun.com for relationship info and because the city has a computer program called COPLink. I don't know much about it, but I guess it's pretty helpful in that it can display connections between individuals- connect the dots.
Anyways, here is some intersting stuff about rats (the animal kind). Speaking of which, my ex-roomate just took a seat next to me in the computer room. Do you smell that to?
QUESTION: What's my flirting motivation? The other night, while out with friends... we got into a somewhat heated conversation about flirting. Posted by Maryann James baltimoresun.com May 9,2008 10:21 am:
It started because I mentioned that Boyfriend is a Flirty McSmiley, to which he begged ignorance. He's just a friendly guy, he said. Ignorance or no, his friendly behavior-- mostly to people in the service industry-- comes off as flirty, I said, which I find hilarious to watch. (He swears he's not a smoothy, but it's so funny to watch him pour on the charm.)
But then the tables were turned, which is when it got interesting: Sure, he may flirt to smoth the edges with the lady at the front desk or the waitress who's serving his food, but it's all still low-grade compared to women, the men of the group said. What about women? Women are way more confusing because they flirt for a number of reasons, many of which have nothing to do with the man (they are) flirting with. Among the reasons:
+ She wants to feel cute and attractive
+ She thinks the guy seems interesting and wants to pass the time.
+ She thinks the guy seems interesting (in a romantic way) and wants to find out more about him.
Isn't that dishonest? the guys argued. When men purposely flirt, they have a (romantic...) goal in mind. What about women who flirt just to get a free drink? The women argued that it's not unfair; flirting, regardless of the reason, is supposed to be about fun. If it leads to somewhere, then bonus. Women flirt for many different reasons outside the base reaction of "he's cute," "she's cute."
I thought the conversation was funny because (a) I'd never thought about flirting motivations before and (b) it showed a clear difference in most male/female thought processes: For men, there has to be a reason, a goal, a direction. For women, an action is influenced by emotion and feeling- this is not to say that men only flirt to have romantic relations, or that women are emotional creatures incapable of logical thought...I am simply talking in broad strokes in order to make a point/spark a conversation).
Either way, I was curious about what you all thought. Why do you flirt? And is flirting without a romantic goal dishonest?
I don't think I am dishonest about it. If I go to a bar, I always go on the assumption that I wil be paying for my own drinks. If I meet someone there and he wants to buy me a drink, why is that dishonest? I have bought men drinks too, never under the assumption that he should be the next boyfriend..
ANSWER:
From Trickortreat: My flirting motivation is to stroke my ego a little... Never free drinks. Ugh.
- Trickortreat
05/14/08 WED 12:33 PM From Trickortreat
This is the email I sent to Brian from newschannelx.com this morning:
Hi there, I was wondering if your message board is down or did you block me. Please let me know.
It's crummy, cold and dreary weather again today. I'm feeling depressed because my biological clock is ticking so loud that I can't even concentrate. Ugh. None of the guys I know, including my stupid boyfriend of eight years, are good canidates, so I'm looking into a cryobank.
So mostly, if all goes well, you'll be listening to me complain about being sick for the next nine months....
I wish I could get onto (one of the other news station's message boards), but I can't disable the cookies on this computer since some lugnut was caught surfing porn. Blek.
That's that.
- Trickortreat
Brian replied:
Wow, sounds like you have a lot going on.
Yep, we are down. There were some power outages where our server is located.
I understand though, my clock is ticking too. Different, I'm sure, but I hear it.
05/17/08 SAT 6:14 AM From Trickortreat
I emailed this to Brian at newschannelx.com yesterday:
Ok. I'm running a relationship cyber-column on my blog over at myfoxmilwaukee.com and wanted to do that over here by you, but I'm apparently stuck with Helpful Household Tips instead...Knowing how un-fun you are, I submitted a regular version of today's tip as well as a sexed up copy of it, so you can get your jollies deleting something of mine.
He emailed me back saying:
If nothing else, you keep things interesting.
So that's that. I did a lot of running around and stopped over at the Milwaukee office of the ACLU, which is located in the third ward. I dropped off a resume for them to look at as I am interested in a college intership with or just straight volunteer. I was really nervous about going there because of the she-she poo-poo (upscale & trendy) address. That's not like me, as I'm not easily intimated- maybe it was the idea of a nest of attorneys, or s-o-m-e-t-h-i-n-g that made my stomache flop over with nervousness. But it turned out to be nothing but a bare room, a desk, a phone, and a stack of files.
I could really make myself useful to the ACLU's legal staff by taking some paralegal classes at MATC. It would be great to learn how to bury an opponent in paper. Ya ha ha. Sometimes I think I'm too diabolical for my own good- or anyone elses.
I'm starting to give up on posting my girlfriend Lori's emails to this blog, since she so rarely writes, and when she does, it's pretty mundane and uninspired.
Gotta go, but I'll check in later with an update as far as some good relationship Q & A's as well as what I did over the weekend. Bye!
05/19/08 MON 4:10 PM From Lori
I love getting your emails. You are such an amazing writer- keep them coming.
My schedule this week is as follows- (in case you want to live vicariously)
Today- Dropped off kids by babysitter - went to Pilates- stopped home to change, picked up kids- and now I'll prepare dinner and listen to them scream until bedtime.
Tuesday- Drop off my daughter at school- my two year old (boy) stays with me- Then we go grocery shopping and pick my daughter up and then go home. Make lunch and let the kids nap. (so I can nap) and then go to the mall.
Wednesday- Now this is where it gets good- My babysitter is keeping the kids and my husband and I are spending the rest of the week in Chicago again for business.
Well- gotta go now-
Love, Lori
05/20/08 TUE 4:36 PM From Trickortreat
QUESTION: Is being married but living apart, really a marriage? posted by: Amethyst2 on May-12 2008 3:16 PM Boston.com
Within, say, the past six months, I've known of three couples who have gotten legally married, after having known each other for a fair amount of time. The interesting thing... they *choose* to live apart-- not like they have to.
Couple #1- She lives in Maine with her son, he lives in NY keeping up his business. There's no reason that she can't move to NY; no reason he can't move to Maine. It's just the way they want it.
Couple #2- She lives in Massachusetts, he lives (also) in Maine. OK, she has her two sons in MA, but they're practically out on their own at this point. Again, nothing really keeping him in Maine, other than that's where he wants to be. He does automotive repair-- certainly jobs in her area.
Couple #3- They both live in CT; different parts. She wants to get her catering business off the ground (which is going to commit her even more to the areas she's now in); he is going back to school for an advanced degree.
Now these couples seem well-suited; happy... but it seems odd that they would deliberately choose to marry and live apart.
Do any of you know of situations like this? Is it simply a way of assuring that each can have their own lives; interests, etc? Is it actually saying that the marriage is not the priority in their lives, after all?
ANSWER: Basically, you answered your own question, Amethyst2. This arrangement is a way of putting own's own interests seperate than that of the other's, and above the marriage as well. To me, this does not seem like much of a marriage.
- Trickortreat
05/21/08 WED 10:56 AM From Trickortreat
Brian, I was thinking that you could use a category for the message boards at newschannelx.com called "Right or Wrong". I cruised some Chicago and LA sites, and found that people liked the category.
Brian replied:
Good call. It's a natural for the new forums I'm working on....
05/22/08 THU 2:37 PM From Trickortreat
I emailed this to Lori and newschannelx.com Brian:
I've been upset the last few days because I was busy volunteering at the GAC, and someone called The Lakeshore Residence to find out where this volunteer named Sandra was, and why she didn't show up for work, and the Lakeshore Residence staff discovered her dead in her bathroom. She had fallen, and split her head- died like a dog, and when I got home, (The Lakeshore Residence is where I live), the staff at the front desk was joking about it, about how her body blocked the bathroom door, and about the blood and the stench. It is sad, when there is no dignity in death.
Lori replied:
I am very sorry to hear about this... In Christ there is no death, just eternity with God. Be comforted to know that when we die we will be in heaven. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Brain replied:
Wow, what a tragic story. I'm sorry to hear about it. It is tragic when life is discounted in passing, like it doesn't matter.
05/28/08 WED 9:36 PM From Trickortreat
To: Lori
On the subject of going blonde... Going something. I was thinking about adding a photo to my profile on singles.com, and then maybe trying eharmony, as things have completely stalled out with the leasing agent Jeff (and love of my life XXOO). I took a chance and asked him out, knowing he couldn't ask me first, because of his position, and got slapped with the "not appropriate n-o-w " line. He actually gave me this look like he thought for a second that I might be wearing a wire. God. I'm just looking for someone old to have fun with, and to tease.
So then I left him a scathing voicemail about the lady, Sandy, who's dead body wasn't discovered for two days, and ranted about how I didn't realize that I was living in a place where people were going to be croaking off on a regular basis, and that I was unaware of the bad rep the Lakeshore Residence had in the community, blah blah blah... So now when he says "Hi" and looks at me all lustfully, I just shoot him a mean look, like...er, what? H-ll hath no fury like a woman scorned (!!!).
I think I can get a regular picture of me, taken at Walmart, pretty cheap. The last time I went to a modeling photographer and paid $500. Mostly it's important to get a full view, top to bottom, so that guys know you're not FAT.
So, I have a hair appointment for a blonde highlight. Supposedly there is a trendyish bar in the basement next to the Irish Pub up the street, that I'd like to check out. It's a gay/straight mix.
I'm just not getting what I need (except money) out of this relationship with Homer. He's gotten so heavy that he can't put his weight on me anymore without running the risk of completely flattening me out, and I'm dying to feel the weight of a man on me, again. It's just necessary-- to recharge.
I saw a segment abut you on "Supernanny- The Completely Overwhelmed and Slightly Depressed New Mom". I really wish you would take a parenting class. Kids aren't supposed to be running around screaming non-stop, acording to the Supernanny.
As I have money these days, I'll go to the bookstore and see if they don't have something by Nanny 911 that might help you.
I've been completely distraught over: THE MARYANNE HAYES INCIDENT which has had me screaming and crying on the phone to poor Homer (I don't know how he puts up with me, or why) and had a handful of hot! cops tumbling into my room at 1:00 in the morning last night. I'll tell about this STALKER later, when I've recovered a little. Hmpf.
